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The Surrey Hypnotherapy Clinic
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Anger Management - Help & Hypnosis Therapy Treatment for Anger and Rage

Anger, or Rage ? - I can help you !

If you live in Surrey, East Hants or Berks and you are having problems with controlling your feelings of anger or temper, one of the most effective ways of resolving this problem permanently is through therapeutic Hypnosis therapy. This is a specialised form of Hypnotherapy, with its roots in both Psycho-Analysis and Hypnoanalysis, which gets to the root cause of your anger and strong emotions. 

 

Most people who consult with what they call "anger issues" often feel, themselves, to be misunderstood and are worried that there is something within themselves that is out of their control. They very often already know that their reactions and responses are out of proportion to whatever individual or situation it is that is causing them to be so angry. Yet they can't seem to control it. And they often take out their anger on those who are closest, or most important, to them in their life whether in relationships, the home or the workplace.

 

And then, of course, afterwards they experience the 'fall out' - the consequences of 'having lost it', in the way that they just have. Typically feeling remorseful, guilty and ashamed - not only for what they have just done, but also for the pain, hurt and maybe embarassment that they may have inflicted upon their loved ones and the people that either matter most to them in their lives, such as their partner, or children - or even on complete strangers who, really, were just 'doing their job'.


The reason some people tend to have anger issues is because the REAL reason for their anger is unknown to them and thus unresolved. The anger is always there, in the unconscious part of their mind just waiting to be triggered by any 'challenging situation' that presents itself.

 

A good way of describing the the operation of this kind of anger problem is as "an emotional response to an unconscious trigger". Some unknown thought, belief or idea in your unconscious is being triggered by whatever situation you are in, such that an emotional response, of anger, is being triggered.

 

What needs to be done, of course, is to find, the thought, belief, or idea, whatever it is, that lies deep within the unconscious, and which is triggering your anger outburst in certain situations - and, very gently,  remove it !

Finding the cause may well sound like an impossible task(!), but therapeutic Hypnosis, done in the correct way, is the most reliable, successful, and quickest, way to find, and remove, the problem trigger(s), and to permanently resolve your problem of anger outbursts.

 

And then, once the trigger(s) removed and resolved, your anger problem just stops happening - it has gone away !

 

This therapy leaves the formerly angry person feeling much more calm and relaxed, and free from anxiety and fears and able to cope with ALL of life's ups and downs with surprising ease, control and confidence - Peter's therapy will put you back in control of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour, such that your anger issues are now something that you USED to have !

 

Contact me now to book a free initial consultation to find out more about this successful and effective therapy. I am confident that I can resolve your problem quickly, and help your problem in just a few sessions.

 

If you would like more information on this successful application of therapeutic Hypnosis please contact me to arrange a FREE confidential consultation (Click here), and get started on changing your life straight away.

 

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Alternatively, continue reading on down this page, past the following video, for more information about Anger and the forms that it can take..

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What is Anger ?

Anger, or wrath, or rage, is an intense emotional state. It involves a strong uncomfortable and hostile response to a perceived provocation, hurt or threat.

 

A person experiencing anger will often experience physical conditions, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline.

 

Some view anger as an emotion which triggers part of the fight or flight brain response.

 

Anger is used as a protective mechanism to cover up fear, hurt or sadness. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically when a person makes the conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening behavior of another outside force.

Symptoms of Anger

Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. The external expression of anger can be found in:

  • Facial expressions
  • Body language
  • Physiological responses
  • At times, public acts of aggression

While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them," psychologists point out that an angry person can very well be mistaken because anger causes a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability.

Origin and Cause of Anger

Some animals make loud sounds, attempt to look physically larger, bare their teeth, and stare.The behaviors associated with anger are designed to warn aggressors to stop their threatening behavior. Rarely does a physical altercation occur without the prior expression of anger by at least one of the participants. Displays of anger can be used as a manipulation strategy for social influence.

 

People feel angry when:

  • They sense that they or someone they care about has been offended.
  • When they are certain about the nature and cause of the angering event.
  • When they are convinced someone else is responsible.
  • When they feel they can still influence the situation or cope with it.

For instance, if a person's car is damaged, they will feel angry if someone else did it (e.g. another driver rear-ended it), but will feel sadness instead if it was caused by situational forces (e.g. a hailstorm) or guilt and shame if they were personally responsible (e.g. he crashed into a wall out of momentary carelessness).

 

Psychotherapist Michael C. Graham defines anger in terms of our expectations and assumptions about the world. Graham states:

 

"anger almost always results when we are caught up "... expecting the world to be different than it is".

 

Usually, those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them" and in most cases the described provocations occur immediately before the anger experience. Such explanations confirm the illusion that anger has a discrete external cause.

 

The angry person usually finds the cause of their anger in an intentional, personal, and controllable aspect of another person's behavior.

 

This explanation, however, is based on the intuitions of the angry person who as a result of their emotion experiences a loss in:

  • Self-monitoring capacity
  • Objective observability

Anger can be of multicausal origin, some of which may be remote events, but people rarely find more than one cause for their anger. According to Novaco:
 

"Anger experiences are embedded or nested within an environmental-temporal context. Disturbances that may not have involved anger at the outset leave residues that are not readily recognized but that operate as a lingering backdrop for focal provocations (of anger)."

 

Another 'anger activator' can be pain, as a result of an internal infection (according to Encyclopædia Britannica).

Anger or Aggression ?

Some people see anger and aggression as the same thing. In fact, anger is an emotion that we feel while aggression is how some of us behave when we feel angry.

 

Not everyone who feels angry is aggressive, and not everyone who acts aggressively is angry. Sometimes people behave aggressively because they feel afraid or threatened.

 

Also, alcohol and some illegal drugs can make people act more aggressively. For example, some writers believe there to be a strong association between smoking cannabis and knife killings in the UK.

Types of Anger

The pressure cooker metaphor for anger has been around for some time - we can only absorb so much pressure against our anger for a certain amount of time until our anger explodes, like an exploding pressure cooker.

 

One simple breakdown of anger expression is:

  • Passive anger
  • Aggressive anger
  • Assertive anger.

 

These three types of anger have some characteristic symptoms:

 

Passive anger

Passive anger can be expressed in the following ways:

  • Dispassion, such as giving someone the cold shoulder or a fake smile, looking unconcerned or "sitting on the fence" while others sort things out, dampening feelings with substance abuse, overreacting, oversleeping, not responding to another's anger, frigidity, indulging in sexual practices that depress spontaneity and make objects of participants, giving inordinate amounts of time to machines, objects or intellectual pursuits, talking of frustrations but showing no feeling.
  • Evasiveness, such as turning one's back in a crisis, avoiding conflict, not arguing back, becoming phobic.
  • Defeatism, such as setting yourself and others up for failure, choosing unreliable people to depend on, being accident prone, underachieving, sexual impotence, expressing frustration at insignificant things but ignoring serious ones.
  • Obsessive behavior, such as needing to be inordinately clean and tidy, making a habit of constantly checking things, over-dieting or overeating, demanding that all jobs be done perfectly.
  • Psychological manipulation, such as provoking people to aggression and then patronizing them, provoking aggression but staying on the sidelines, emotional blackmail, false tearfulness, feigning illness, sabotaging relationships, using sexual provocation, using a third party to convey negative feelings, withholding money or resources.
  • Secretive behavior, such as stockpiling resentments that are expressed behind people's backs, giving the silent treatment or under-the-breath mutterings, avoiding eye contact, putting people down, gossiping, anonymous complaints, poison pen letters, stealing, and conning.
  • Self-blame, such as apologizing too often, being overly critical, inviting criticism.

Aggressive anger

The symptoms of aggressive anger are:

  • Bullying, such as threatening people directly, persecuting, insulting, pushing or shoving, using power to oppress, shouting, driving someone off the road, playing on people's weaknesses.
  • Destruction, such as destroying objects as in vandalism, harming animals, child abuse, destroying a relationship, reckless driving, substance abuse.
  • Grandiosity, such as showing off, expressing mistrust, not delegating, being a sore loser, wanting center stage all the time, not listening, talking over people's heads, expecting kiss and make-up sessions to solve problems.
  • Hurtfulness, such as violence, including sexual abuse and rape, verbal abuse, biased or vulgar jokes, breaking confidence, using foul language, ignoring people's feelings, willfully discriminating, blaming, punishing people for unwarranted deeds, labeling others.
  • Risk-taking behavior, such as speaking too fast, walking too fast, driving too fast, reckless spending.
  • Selfishness, such as ignoring others' needs, not responding to requests for help, queue jumping.
  • Threats, such as frightening people by saying how one could harm them, their property or their prospects, finger pointing, fist shaking, wearing clothes or symbols associated with violent behaviour, tailgating, excessively blowing a car horn, slamming doors.
  • Unjust blaming, such as accusing other people for one's own mistakes, blaming people for your own feelings, making general accusations.
  • Unpredictability, such as explosive rages over minor frustrations, attacking indiscriminately, dispensing unjust punishment, inflicting harm on others for the sake of it,[19] illogical arguments.
  • Vengeance, such as being over-punitive. This differs from retributive justice, as vengeance is personal, and possibly unlimited in scale.

Assertive anger

  • Blaming, such as after a particular individual commits an action that’s possibly frowned upon, the particular person will resort to scolding. This is in fact, common in discipline terms.
  • Punishment, the angry person will give a temporary punishment to an individual like further limiting a child’s will to do anything they want like playing video games, reading, etc, after they did something to cause trouble.
  • Sternness, such as calling out a person on their behaviour, with their voices raised with utter disapproval/disappointment.

Fortunately all of these anger types respond well to therapeutic Hypnosis therapy.


Six dimensions of anger expression
Anger expression can take on many more styles than passive or aggressive. Ephrem Fernandez has identified six dimensions of anger expression. They relate to the direction of anger, its locus, reaction, modality, impulsivity, and objective.

 

Coordinates on each of these dimensions can be connected to generate a profile of a person's anger expression style. Among the many profiles that are theoretically possible in this system, are the familiar profile of the person with explosive anger, profile of the person with repressive anger, profile of the passive aggressive person, and the profile of constructive anger expression.

Anger, or Rage ? - I can help you !

As I said earlier on this page, if you live in Surrey, East Hants or Berks and you are having problems with controlling your feelings of anger or temper, one of the most effective ways of resolving this problem permanently is through therapeutic Hypnosis therapy. This is a specialised form of Hypnotherapy, with its roots in both Psycho-Analysis and Hypnoanalysis, which gets to the root cause of your anger and strong emotions. 

 

Most people who consult with what they call "anger issues" often feel, themselves, to be misunderstood and are worried that there is something within themselves that is out of their control. They very often already know that their reactions and responses are out of proportion to whatever individual or situation it is that is causing them to be so angry. Yet they can't seem to control it. And they often take out their anger on those who are closest, or most important, to them in their life whether in relationships, the home or the workplace.

 

And then, of course, afterwards they experience the 'fall out' - the consequences of 'having lost it', in the way that they just have. Typically feeling remorseful, guilty and ashamed - not only for what they have just done, but also for the pain, hurt and maybe embarassment that they may have inflicted upon their loved ones and the people that either matter most to them in their lives, such as their partner, or children - or even on complete strangers who, really, were just 'doing their job'.


The reason some people tend to have anger issues is because the REAL reason for their anger is unknown to them and thus unresolved. The anger is always there, in the unconscious part of their mind just waiting to be triggered by any 'challenging situation' that presents itself.

 

A good way of describing the the operation of this kind of anger problem is as "an emotional response to an unconscious trigger". Some unknown thought, belief or idea in your unconscious is being triggered by whatever situation you are in, such that an emotional response, of anger, is being triggered.

 

What needs to be done, of course, is to find, the thought, belief, or idea, whatever it is, that lies deep within the unconscious, and which is triggering your anger outburst in certain situations - and, very gently, remove it!

Finding the cause may well sound like an impossible task(!), but therapeutic Hypnosis, done in the correct way, is the most reliable, successful, and quickest, way to find, and remove, the problem trigger(s), and to permanently resolve your problem of anger outbursts.

 

And then, once the trigger(s) removed and resolved, your anger problem just stops happening - it has gone away !

 

This leaves the formerly angry person feeling much more calm and relaxed, and free from anxiety and fears and able to cope with ALL of life's ups and downs with surprising ease, control and confidence - Peter's therapy will put you back in control of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour, such that your anger issues are now something that you USED to have !

 

Contact me now to book a free initial consultation to find out more about this successful and effective therapy. I am confident that I can resolve your problem quickly, and help your problem in just a few sessions.

 

If you would like more information on this successful application of therapeutic Hypnosis please contact me to arrange a FREE confidential consultation (Click here), and get started on changing your life straight away.

 

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